This successful guide has already helped many tens of thousands of readers understand and manage out-of-control anger in all its forms, from passive-aggression to all-out rage. Dr. Robert Nay presents an effective six-step program grounded in the proven techniques of cognitive-behavioral therapy. Self-quizzes and exercises show how to immediately recognize anger's triggers and early warning signs -- and master cooling-off strategies that work in the heat of the moment. By learning specific ways to defuse conflict and express their feelings calmly, readers can put a lid on destructive anger while appropriately asserting their needs. The revised second edition includes a new chapter on resolving longstanding resentments, plus updated examples and resources.
"Nay is an expert on anger management whose Taking Charge of Anger is a significant contribution to the literature." -- Lynne F. Maxwell, Library Journal, April 2010 (on the first edition) Professional version: "Nay provides practical, user-friendly techniques to help individuals with anger control problems regulate anger, hostility, and resentment; engage in forgiveness activities; and communicate more effectively. Worksheets, examples, and practice activities are incorporated throughout this self-help guide. Straightforward and evidence based, this is a valuable book for clients and family members, as well as mental health workers." - Donald Meichenbaum, University of Waterloo, Ontario, Canada, and Melissa Institute for Violence Prevention and Treatment, Florida, USA Trade version: "This valuable book provides evidence-based techniques that can help you gain control of anger and communicate more effectively. Kudos to Dr. Nay for producing a guide that draws on extensive clinical and research experience -- and that is straightforward, practical, and user friendly." - Donald Meichenbaum, Melissa Institute for Violence Prevention and Treatment, Florida, USA
Introduction to the Second Edition. Part I: Step One. Understanding and Recognizing Anger. The Faces of Anger: Whom Do You See in the Mirror? Behind the Mask: Understanding Anger and its Expression. Part II: Step Two. Identifying and Preparing for Anger Triggers. Understanding Your Anger Triggers. Part III: Step Three. Pinpointing Your Anger Early On and Dampening Arousal. Anger Awareness. Dampening Anger Arousal. Part IV: Step Four. Identifying and Changing Thoughts That Fuel Anger. Recognizing Thoughts That Fuel Anger. Rewriting Your Script: New Thinking for New Solutions. Part V: Step Five. Staying Cool Under Fire. Assertive Problem Solving: Expressing Anger Constructively in Conflict Situations. When Anger is Aimed at You. Part VI: Step Six. Staying the Course: Sustaining New Behavior and Coping with Roadblocks. Establishing New Anger Habits. Resolving Resentment and Considering When to Forgive When You Can't Forget. So You've Had a Setback: Getting Back on Track. Appendix 1: Self-Assessment of Anger Questionnaire (SAQ). Appendix 2: Daily Anger Log. Appendix 3: Personal Anger Scale. Appendix 4: Anger Analysis. Appendix 5: Relationship Anger Profile.